The Speech Art

Ladies and gentlemen, you are welcome to this very impulsive show – Real-Tabletalk. You know how we do this. We bring out the truth about our surrounding and show it in the spot light without fear of face or the truth because I always say “the fear of the truth is the beginning of destruction.” Today, we would be talking about our talking attitude and the way we address situations and I will like to name that “The Speech Art”

Have you realized that there is a lot of us that don’t know how to talk? Well, we all like talking, or almost all of us like talking but you should be warned because some ofour tongues are sharp as a double-edged sword and we talk before we reason. It is not for nothing that an old cliché goes “the pen is mightier than the sword.” It is good to weigh what you say before saying it because a lot of us just say things before reasoning out the consequences of the actions we just took. Sometimes we talk under the influence of anger and try to blame it on the anger but the truth is, anger is not to be blamed. The person to be blamed is you.

Once there was this person who was unhappy with the behavior of a friend. It looked like that person was just intruding with his idea and the person in charge was not so comfortable with such character. Then listen to this. One day, during a discussion, the name of the “problematic” was mentioned in comparison to another and get this “no no no. don’t even compare James to Paul, James even better ya. Paul acts like a child.” That was said out of disgust of the moment for Paul. To make things worse, Paul’s friends were around the corner and they heard every word of what was said and if they are loyal to that friend, they will obviously inform Paul on what was said about him. You know what that can cause. Problem, hate, backbiting and bitterness. What for? It is so painful that even as children of the Light we still let anger control us instead of us to control anger.

Sometimes our ego plays us games and you feel humiliated when you are hurt by someone and what you think of is nothing but retaliate with words but let me tell you that words scar you more than physical wounds. Tell someone something like “who do you think you are, you can’t do that, never you talk to me like that, I am the one in command ok! Shut up, you are childish, you are a disappointment, you never finish anything, you are worthless, you are nothing.” Its true we grew up in Church and we have Christian backgrounds and we are thought to forgive and forget but the truth is, it is easy to forgive and hard to forget because words stick in the mind and even if you delete it at times, it remains in the recycle bin.

It is not for nothing that they say the pen is mightier than the sword. Well words hurt more than physical pain because words work with the mind and that is dangerous. The best way to act when you are angry is just to lay low and try not to say anything during the first few seconds of the shock you receive because once you utter words, there is no way you can take it back. Yes. You can’t take back words and saying I’m sorry may only calm the storm depending on the individuals. We are living in a world where not everyone is brought up in the same way. You may just create a life time enemy in a few words and you can destroy someone within the same timing.

Drop your ego and let peace reign. The people around you may say you are week and you can’t react to stimulus but who cares? Laying low is not a weakness, is just a strength not everyone can contain. Forgiving seventy times seven in a day is not given to everyone so we should repent from our sharp tongue and apply the principle of self-control.

… I’m sorry if I’m maybe hurting your ego or something but its true so don’t take it personal because ain’t trying to fight you, see, it’s just Real-TableTalk.